When I was first learning about attracting women, I did an experiment.
I put up two DIFFERENT profiles on the same social networking site.
In profile # 1, I presented myself as the ultimate NICE GUY.
I talked about my job at a “reputed, public limited company”, my
good job prospects, the fact that I owned a car and a house and that
I was “God-fearing”. I mentioned that I “respect women” and that I was
looking for a nice woman to “share my life with”, and that I was looking
forward to supporting her, her dreams and her aspirations.
In Profile # 2 I presented myself as a complete, selfish jerk.
I made it clear that I lived only for myself, was not interested in having
a relationship, and that all I was looking for was “wild, passionate flings”.
I mentioned upfront, that I expected my women to be there for me
when I was free and not to call or bother me when I was busy with my work.
Profile # 1 got responses (plenty) from women looking for a relationship.
Profile # 2 got responses (a few) from women looking for something casual.
But the big a-ha happened when the SAME woman responded to
both profiles…on the SAME day…with different responses!
To the first profile, she responded with ‘relationship’ kind of questions.
She wanted to know more about my education and my family, she
told me about her education, her dreams…she made it clear that
she didn’t cook and didn’t expect to be a housewife. She wanted to
know “what part of Mumbai” I lived in, what car I had (!). She asked me to
send her a few more photographs and asked me to tell her “more about
yourself” so she could get to know me better before we could talk on the phone.
She did not send me her phone number.
To my second profile, she sent a message with lots of excited ‘LOL’s and
her mobile number.
Same woman, same day, different responses.
Lesson : The more comfortable you are in your reality, the more
comfortable SHE will be in your reality.
Whatever is a big deal for you, will be a big deal for her.
If approaching and talking to a woman is a big deal for you, it will
SHOW in your bodylanguage & voice tone, and will BECOME a big deal
for her. If casual sex is NO big deal for you, it’ll be NO big deal for her.
By the way, I’m not knocking relationships nor am I advocating
casual sex (to each his own).